Will you tend to the “one thing?”

one good thing

Having just returned from the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in Washington, DC, I am bursting with new ideas and approaches to try both professionally and personally. This annual conference has a cadre of instructors that represent the best psychotherapy has to offer in the the field: Jon Kabat-Zinn, John and Julie Gottman, Esther Perel, Daniel Siegel, Bessel van der Kolk, Diane Ackerman, Margaret Wehrenberg just to name a few.

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Why a glass jar full of feel good items?

good things

There is so much evidence out there that we humans are great at jumping on bad news and dwelling there, shining our light, and focusing on it because we are wired from an evolutionary/survival standpoint to do just that. However, there is a vast and growing body of evidence from the fields of positive psychology and neurobiology that actively focusing on the small, positive events that occur on a weekly basis deserves our attention.

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Or is buying time more important?

buying time

Last week I hinted about the simplest way to start a habit change. This is a subject that has been written about extensively, and remains difficult for most people. Why?

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What is the purpose of a habit?

purpose of habit

Habits are a bit like pointillism, a period of art, as in this picture of Georges Seurat’s best-known and largest painting, where he depicted people relaxing in a suburban park on an island in the Seine River called La Grande Jatte.

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How do you reduce the mind-clutter of making daily choices?

choices

According to Barry Schwartz in his excellent book The Paradox of Choice, you become a satisficer. You make choices that are  “good enough.”

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How do you figure out what part of an unwanted behavior to change?

create change

In my last post, I introduced the idea of making a small change in a behavior pattern in order to achieve a new, more positive outcome.

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What’s real in the age of digital, retouched, photoshopped images?

photoshopped images

And what about the niggling sense you may have at times when in relationships that something is amiss? Do you trust your gut? Or do you wait for evidence?

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What’s wrong with “active listening?”

listening seal

If you are trying to actively listen, that is okay. But to really hear someone, you must be truly curious about what they have to say.

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Is it possible to overstate the importance of connection?

couples counseling

I don’t think so, and neither did another fairly astute individual.

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