There is so much evidence out there that we humans are great at jumping on bad news and dwelling there, shining our light, and focusing on it because we are wired from an evolutionary/survival standpoint to do just that. However, there is a vast and growing body of evidence from the fields of positive psychology and neurobiology that actively focusing on the small, positive events that occur on a weekly basis deserves our attention.
Last week I hinted about the simplest way to start a habit change. This is a subject that has been written about extensively, and remains difficult for most people. Why?
Habits are a bit like pointillism, a period of art, as in this picture of Georges Seurat’s best-known and largest painting, where he depicted people relaxing in a suburban park on an island in the Seine River called La Grande Jatte.
According to Barry Schwartz in his excellent book The Paradox of Choice, you become a satisficer. You make choices that are “good enough.”
In my last post, I introduced the idea of making a small change in a behavior pattern in order to achieve a new, more positive outcome.
And what about the niggling sense you may have at times when in relationships that something is amiss? Do you trust your gut? Or do you wait for evidence?
If you are trying to actively listen, that is okay. But to really hear someone, you must be truly curious about what they have to say.
Quite simply put, without it we die, right down to the molecular level. For example, here is what happens in the brain of a person with Alzheimer’s disease, quoted from the book Still Alice by Lisa Genova: Read more
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