Here’s a thought: You can be “blessed” and still be hurting. Don’t give in to polarized thinking, that if you’re fortunate then you’re wrong to feel bad about anything. I also think of it as binary thinking, or thinking in polarities. You’re finding yourself saying it’s either this or that, when in fact most things occur on a spectrum.
I just finished an interesting book about reading body language written by Joe Navarro, an ex-FBI agent:
What Every Body Is Saying, 2008, Harper by Joe Navarro and Marvin Karlins, PhD
What interested me the most was the author’s scientific comparisons and parallels to the limbic system as the primary generator of physical behaviors by our bodies that are largely unconscious.