I HELP COUPLES WITH ANXIOUS PARTNERS LEARN TO COPE
ONE PARTNER IS ALWAYS EXHAUSTED
When one partner has high anxiety, the other often finds themselves emotionally exhausted. But sometimes it’s tough to see the elephant in the room–the anxiety elephant. In this scenario, typically one partner is feeling like his/her needs are not being met. Sometimes they are angry about this. I help both of you understand this dynamic, and see ways you can shift it.
Helping you figure out lousy communication patterns is what I do best. I’m not a magician, but I can help you achieve more awareness of the ways you continue to torpedo the connection with your partner.
Shame Keeps You Stuck
Shame comes from our history. Our family stories, our bodies, or inherited traits that we have no control over, addictions and from affairs, both the emotional and physical type. Do you want to rescue the most important relationship in your life? Or figure out if divorce is a better option? If so, give me a call, or shoot me an email. If you’re not sure, head over to my awesome BLOG and poke around the couples’ section.
P.S. Want to know why men sometimes dread couples counseling? Because they are forced to face the sense of failure they feel (yes–more shame) around whatever is occurring for them. After all, who wants to be put on a spit and roasted over an open flame? Frankly, this is where the real courage comes in–taking ownership of your piece of the problem.