WHY DO COUPLES GET STUCK?
Couples Counseling to Reconnect Your Relationship
Couples work is tough. Often a sense of connection has been lost. It feels like you’re just roommates. And couples tend to show up for therapy kind of late to the party–with a ton of accumulated resentments. The pain or anger is often palpable. Old injuries and painful hurts are present, but it’s tough to see the elephant in the room. It is helpful to get perspective from a third party who is more able to see your stuck patterns.
There are many schools of thought on how to treat what ails a couple. Helping you figure out your stuck communication patterns is what I do best. Hey, I’m not a magician, but I can help you achieve more awareness of the ways you continue to damage the connection with your partner.
Shame can be the culprit that keeps you stuck
Shame comes from past experiences: from families, bodies or inherited traits that we have no control over, addictions (and the behaviors associated with them), and affairs, both the emotional and physical kind. Are you ready to rescue the most important relationship in your life? If so, give me a call, or shoot me an email. I will give you some info about couples counseling so you can decide for yourself if you are ready to tackle it.
P.S. Want to know why men sometimes dread couples counseling? Because they are forced to face the sense of failure they feel (yes–more shame) around whatever is occurring for them. After all, who wants to be put on a spit and roasted over an open flame? Frankly, this is where the real courage comes in–taking ownership of your piece of the problem.