I HELP ANXIOUS COUPLES WHO LONG FOR A DEEPER CONNECTION TO FIGURE THIS OUT.
Culturally, we are taught to be critical—to scan our environment for flaws and errors, to assign blame, and to exercise “critical thinking.” But criticism, when directed at your partner, can strain love over time. COVID19 has exacerbated this tendency. Partners and children are at home and underfoot far more than before this pandemic struck. Grace—and conflict–become more evident. We must manage both.
Some hallmarks of criticism are the phrases “you always” or “you never.” They are a generalized, sweeping attack at your partner’s character, rather than pinpointing a specific incident or behavior.
Helping you figure out better ways to communicate is what I do best. I’m not a magician, but I can help you figure out what your stuck points are. Learning how to bravely say what you need to your partner, and then being able to hold steady when they do the same with you is HUGE, and a big growth edge for many.
WHAT KEEPS YOU STUCK IN THESE PATTERNS?
It is often shame. Shame comes from our history: our family stories, our ever-changing bodies, lost careers, constant comparisons with others, or inherited traits that we have no control over. And then there’s COVID19 to top it off, and heighten our irritability.
Do you want to repair and deepen the most important relationship in your life? If you really want to do this work, then shoot me an email. I love helping couples that want to succeed at change. To explore how I think, head over to my helpful blog and explore the couple’s section.