Couples Counseling
I HELP ANXIOUS COUPLES IN HIGH CONFLICT GET UNSTUCK.
Culturally, we are taught to be critical—to scan our environment for flaws and errors, to assign blame, and to exercise “critical thinking.” We look outward because we are connected to the world with our eyes and ears. But criticism, when directed at your partner, can strain love over time. COVID19 has exacerbated this tendency. Partners and children are at home and underfoot far more than before this pandemic struck.
I’m a research nerd who believes we are best guided by facts coupled with the unique expertise we have of our own lives. I’ll spend time learning about your challenges, and teach you the tools to overcome them. Meeting couples online reduces the time in your schedule and creates greater access to therapy. And I find that couples in high conflict benefit the most. Often they aren’t thrilled to attend, but when they do commit, they are grateful for the wider perspective they achieve within the relationship and of their partner.
WHAT KEEPS YOU STUCK IN THESE PATTERNS?
If you are stuck in the same old conflict patterns, then maybe it’s time to ditch the excuses and get started on meeting your goals. It’s not about seeking pleasure or being right, it’s about finding meaning in your relationship and understanding how you are better together, or perhaps finding a civil path to separation.
If you are in the place of not knowing whether your problems as a couple are even solvable, I can help with that, too.
Change is hard in today’s world but doing nothing will get you what you’ve always gotten. Contact me at page@pagerutledge.com to get started today.
