Anger: Do you blow or stuff?
Or is your anger somewhere on this continuum? I want to challenge the belief that anger is harmful.
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What does a baby monkey have to do with the fight you had with your lover last night?
Harry Harlow was the first to do groundbreaking research using rhesus monkeys to demonstrate the profound impact mother attachment had on the normal growth and maturation of the baby monkeys in his experiments. It showed that even when the monkeys were repeatedly rejected by painful mother “dolls”, they would return seeking connection even though the source […]
The Pain of Estrangement
How Do You Cope With Losing the Relationship You Once Had With an Adult Child? Wow, this is a tough one. A situation that is full of blame, grief, and having all of your defense mechanisms triggered. How on earth do you cope with losing the once close relationship with a child you nurtured, raised, […]
Addiction: Is it a learning disorder?
I feel so compelled to share this piece from the New York Times with you. Current brain research demonstrates the choices made by young addicts are made for reasons that demand much more compassion than relegating it to a moral problem or a progressive illness. I find it so hopeful for young adults in particular.
Ahhhh… Saturday Mornings
Recently I went to Boston to visit my adult children, and had a wonderful time with them. But traveling, schlepping, and getting around in the big city takes its toll. It is not as easy to navigate as life in little, lovely Wilmington!
What Is the One Thing Couples Don’t Know When They are Fighting?
In order to answer this question about the one thing couples do not realize when they are fighting, a little background is helpful. Science from all sorts of fields tell us that loneliness raises our blood pressure and can increase the risk of heart disease, even stroke, by double.
What Every Body Says
I just finished an interesting book about reading body language written by Joe Navarro, an ex-FBI agent: What Every Body Is Saying, 2008, Harper by Joe Navarro and Marvin Karlins, PhD What interested me the most was the author’s scientific comparisons and parallels to the limbic system as the primary generator of physical behaviors by […]
How do you forest bathe?
AKA Relax, Destress, Unwind, Recharge. Instructions here.
Codependency: What might we extract from the best of the self help onslaught?
If the term codependency sits among the self help genre continually baiting us to believe we all have some form of it, perhaps there are at least a few takeaways we can put to use.
Codependency: Has it been bastardized by pop psychology?
Codependency originated around the early 80’s to help families with alcohol and drug problems. It stemmed from the idea that the whole family system needs to be addressed to achieve recovery, and that certain family members may be hindering the process by enabling the substance abuser. The word and the concept are still wildly popular […]