I Don’t Feel Like It!
Sooo many times, we need to complete a task, and the first thought is “I don’t feel like it!” Thinking in opposites is a strategy I want to offer you to challenge this thought. Here’s why.
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Do You Over-Explain?
Have you ever thought about this? Do you over-explain something when you are saying no to a request, or to an intrusive question? Did you know that you do not have to explain your thoughts to someone simply because they asked? And that the tendency to do this typically occurs with someone we care about, […]
Curious Not Furious
Have you ever wondered why your partner triggers such an immediate response in you? Would you like to get curious not furious? Understanding your attachment style, or the way you related growing up to your primary caregiver, can provide a clue to the immediate, visceral reactions you have at times in your current relationships. Instead […]
Why So Guilty?
Why so guilty? Or maybe I should ask ‘Why are you so afraid of being yourself?’
Connection Or Protection? How Are You Wired?
Connection or protection? How are you wired? Did you know that love wires us for connection but trauma wires us for protection? Sometimes over-protection. Sometimes under-protection. Here’s how.
What Is The Secret Sauce To A Long And Happy Marriage?
What is the secret sauce to a long and happy marriage? I recently had my own personal physician ask me this. She said she asks every patient this. I have to assume she meant every long-time married patient!
From Childhood Trauma, The Single Most Difficult Thing To Believe
When I work with adult children who suffered from childhood trauma, the single most difficult thing to believe is also the most difficult to help them shift.
Anxiety Sensitivity: 10 Factors that contribute to “Sticky Thoughts”
If you have anxiety sensitivity, here are 10 factors that contribute to “Sticky Thoughts.” Sticky thoughts are the ones you just can’t shake loose. Sticky thoughts predispose your mind to anxiety and hyper-vigilance. They tend to keep you stuck in your own personal anxiety loop that is both unproductive and self-shaming. That is why learning […]
People Pleasing
People pleasing looks like saying “yes” to everything, or being the person who’s always there for anything that’s preferred or needed by the other person.
Hug Starved? Touch Starvation Is Real
If you are hug starved, I want you to know your are not alone. Touch starvation is real.