I Was Parked, And Panic Ensued
Living with panic attacks is no picnic. Learn why they can happen with no apparent reason.
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Why Does Good Couples Therapy Fail? 7 Reasons
What are the reasons good couples therapy fails?
My Twelve Rules For Productive Couples Counseling
I have twelve rules that have proven effective for having productive couples counseling. These rules particularly apply to couples in distress, who wonder if they should even be together at all.
Why Do We Love Personality Tests?
Ahhhh. We do love a quiz that promises to reveal ourselves to our, well, ourselves. And big business loves to to see how well you might fit into their organizational team. That we love personality tests is the why that drives their proliferation. But I wonder if you might like to understand why many of […]
What Is Clean Pain vs. Dirty Pain?
So what is clean pain vs. dirty pain? Recently I ran across this description of the ways couples typically interact that just rang true. This concept of pain describes both the perils and the possibilities that exist within our relationships. If you can agree that pain is a given at times with our partners, this […]
Couples Can Be Cruel To Each Other
Couples are cruel to each other in many different ways. Couples betray each other in many different ways. Beyond the obvious betrayal of affairs, cruelty is is far more common that we think within our most valued relationship.
Do You Know The Cost To You Of Broken Boundaries?
In addition to my degree in clinical social work, I have a masters degree in public health. One important goal of public health is to prevent disease from spreading. I want to help you see the costs to you of broken (or non-existent) boundaries by using the analogy of vaccines. First you need to understand […]
The Worry Box Technique
The worry box technique is a simple skill used to help you manage when and how you worry. This sounds simplistic, and on its face it is. However, the results can truly help you place and pace worry better than simply allowing the random worries to crawl around in your head in the unending, unresolved […]
Why Bother Using Coping Skills?
Why Bother Using Coping Skills? If you aren’t practicing coping skills you learn in therapy regularly while calm, there’s a good chance a skill such as deep belly breathing won’t be as effective as you’d like. When the nervous system dysregulates quickly to fight or flight, instantly really, that lets me know you may need […]
Five Ways To Boost Your Relationship Happiness
This isn’t the typical advice column, so you are duly warned. It’s a two minute read, so no excuses, to learn five ways to boost your relationship happiness.